Then it dawned on me, "Maybe I should be
Effective rather than just being right."
If you criticize other's ideas they'll almost never use you no matter how good they are.
The definition of leadership is someone following
someone because they want to and not because they have to... That's
leadership.
Sometimes it's our judgement that gives us the biggest
problem. We meet people and we judge them in the first 10-15 seconds,... and they feel judged, they don't feel heard and we are never
going to be leaders to these people.
Your ability to manage and deal with people you don't like will define
your greatness.
Every single human being you will ever meet for the rest of your life knows
something you don't and don't you ever forget it.
Sometimes you're face to face with somebody and you have to look at them and do this,
"Look, disagree with you but I'm willing
to listen,... I disagree but tell me more."
When you listen to people they will feel heard and not
judged, they will typically choose you in what you say and do over somebeody else sometimes regardless of any other criteria.
We have a tendency to judge our inside by other people's outside, "I'm going
to judge how I feel by the way you look."